Your Phone Is Making You a Loser. Here's Why.
Look, let’s cut the polite crap.
If you're in a meeting, on a date, with your team, with your partner, and your phone is visible? You're the problem. That glowing little rectangle is broadcasting a loud, silent message:
“You’re not important enough.”
Forget what you say.
That iPhone face-up on the table already said it louder.
You’re not fooling anyone.
People aren’t dumb.
You know that, they feel when you’re not there with them.
So let me make it simple.
The Real Reason You’re Addicted
Phones aren’t just distractions.
They’re energy leaks.
Constant, stupid, anxiety-triggering leaks.
Now here's the kicker. Most of you think it’s about discipline or willpower.
Wrong.
This isn’t about willpower at all.
Here’s the truth. In Human Design (don’t worry, I’ll keep it clean), energy doesn’t go where you want it to go. It flows where it’s designed to go—into the main channels of your defined centers. You can't force your energy to be present when your system is wired for distraction.
If your phone is the loudest thing in your energy field, guess what?
That’s where your energy goes.
That’s not a glitch. That’s the design.
Proof We All Ignore
Simon Sinek said it best.
“A visible phone says, ‘You are not my priority.’ A silent phone still sends a message.”
He wasn’t being cute.
This isn’t subtle.
Phones kill presence.
Presence is currency.
And most people are broke.
Worse—most professionals are trying to "build relationships" while showing up like junkies shaking for their next dopamine hit. You're not connecting. You're posturing. And people can smell it.
Want to Stop Looking Like an Amateur?
Here’s the actual playbook. No hacks. No apps. Just action.
Kill the visual trigger. Out of sight means out of your energy field. That phone isn’t “off.” It’s controlling you unless it’s away.
Create space on purpose. Morning = partner, not phone. Dinner = person, not screen. If there’s a phone between you, there’s a wall between you.
Rewire your habits. Stop fighting your brain. Design your environment to make the right move automatic.
Still carrying your phone room to room like a pacifier? Still checking it before your partner gets a “good morning”? Still keeping it on the table while pitching a client?
You're not serious. You’re signaling weakness. And it’s costing you.
One Final Thing
Presence isn’t about saying “I’m listening.” It’s about the other person feeling it.
So ask yourself: do people feel heard when they’re with you?
If not—start here. Put the damn phone away.
P.S. If you actually want to learn how to use your energy on purpose and stop leaking it like a busted faucet, I teach this stuff weekly.
P.S.2
If we haven’t met, hi! My name is Alexandru.
Life put me in the world of coaching 31 years ago. I’ve spent years researching Human Design science, psychology, Consciousness Medicine, Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) and coaching — not just in books, but in real life.
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