The Cost of Being Emotional in an Emotion-Phobic World

I’m an emotional person. My emotional center is always on.

That means I don’t get to opt out of feelings. It also means something else that took me years to respect. The people around me don’t just feel their emotions. They amplify mine.

When I’m grounded, the room settles.
When I’m irritated, rushed, or internally poisonous, I can watch it spread. Conversations sharpen. People get reactive. Tension multiplies.

So for me, emotional awareness isn’t a wellness hobby. It’s a responsibility.

This week carries a very specific theme. Standing for what matters, even when it’s not easy.

And one thing that matters deeply right now is this.
We’ve been taught that strong emotions are a problem to solve instead of information to respect.

If you feel angry, anxious, restless, sad, you’re subtly told something is wrong with you. That you should regulate faster. Meditate it away. Distract yourself. Optimize it. Neutralize it.

That’s not emotional intelligence. That’s emotional avoidance with better branding.

From what I’ve learned, and lived, emotions aren’t the enemy. They’re a wave. They move whether you cooperate or not. When you fight them, suppress them, or turn them into a personal defect, they don’t disappear. They distort.

And here’s the harder truth most people don’t want to hear.
If you are emotional, defined, intense, your job is not to explain your feelings. It’s to own your timing.

You don’t make decisions at the peak or the crash.
You don’t declare war on yourself for being human.
You don’t outsource your authority to people who are uncomfortable with depth.

Standing for what matters sometimes means standing against a culture that is emotionally phobic. A culture that would rather label, medicate, or pathologize than sit with discomfort.

This isn’t about glorifying suffering.
It’s about refusing to betray yourself just to make others comfortable.

If you’re emotional and aware, your emotions don’t make you dangerous. Avoiding them does.

And if this lands in your body as a quiet yes, not an idea but a recognition, then you already know why I do the work I do.

Standing for what matters starts inside. Even when it’s not easy.

If this resonated in your body, not just in your head, I want to know.

I’m opening a new Human Design Weekend Workshop for people who are ready to understand their emotional mechanics, authority, and inner timing, without pathologizing themselves or bypassing their truth.

If you feel a clear yes, reply to this email or message me “READY”.
No commitment yet. Just signal readiness, and I’ll share the details with you.

This work isn’t for everyone.
But if you’re done fighting your nature and ready to stand for what actually matters, you’ll feel it.