Living abroad looks glamorous until you’re crying in a supermarket because you can’t find your precious sugar-free granola.
Most people think moving countries makes you brave.
But you found out, that it doesn’t.
Yes, it makes you restless.
It exposes how easy it is to reinvent yourself every time life gets uncomfortable.
And it hides the real issue.
You keep leaving because you have no idea where you actually belong.
The Insight
Identity isn’t built by moving.
Identity is built by staying.
But nobody wants to hear that. But people like us choose the real path.
Everyone wants the shortcut.
The new city.
The new apartment.
The new self.
Fast.
Yet the truth is simple.
And you know it, if you can’t find yourself in your own life, you won’t find yourself in another country either.
The Proof
Here is what hits hardest.
Expat life teaches you how to start over.
It does not teach you how to stop.
You know that, very time you leave, you lose a version of yourself.
Every time you arrive, you manufacture a new one.
People call this growth.
But you know, deep inside in your gut, that most of the time it is escape.
Human Design Talk
In Human Design, there is a part that holds your identity.
It is your inner compass.
When it is steady, you feel anchored.
When it is unstable, you bend yourself to every environment, partner, job or country you land in.
Not because you want to.
Because your system is trying to find direction without a map.
The How
Three steps that cut deeper than another plane ticket.
1. Sit still long enough for discomfort to catch you.
2. Ask yourself which version of you feels like home, not which version gets the most applause.
3. Stop outsourcing identity to geography. You are the location. Act like it.
If this hit you, good.
It means your compass is waking up.
I write for people who are tired of running in circles and want direction that actually sticks.
If you want to get weekly insights that turn confusion into clarity.
Subscribe to my email list, let's talk and start building an identity that doesn’t fall apart every time your postcode changes.
